THERAPY
Counselling can mean different things to different people
If you're looking to work on a specific issue - something urgent or particular that's troubling you - therapy can provide a space to talk it through with someone who's impartial, open, and non-judgmental.
If, on the other hand, your reasons for seeking therapy are broader - perhaps associated with feelings or concerns that affect a larger part of your life - you may want a space to openly explore how you feel, safe in the knowledge that the person listening has your best interests at heart and will help you develop a better understanding of yourself and support you in finding the strength to make choices that perhaps previously felt impossible.
Why Now?
This is often the first question I ask new clients. I find this simple question can kickstart the therapeutic process and bring focus to what you're wanting to work on. That said, you may find that your initial reason for seeking therapy shifts as we develop our therapeutic relationship - and that's completely normal.
What I work with:
Relationships and Intimacy
Many people I work with are navigating challenges in how they connect with others. You might be struggling with trust even when you want to open up, finding that vulnerability feels unsafe or exposing, noticing you repeatedly choose similar types of partners, or feeling fundamentally disconnected in your current relationship despite caring for your partner.
These difficulties often show up in specific ways: you might need constant reassurance and struggle with anxiety in relationships, or you might pull away and withdraw just when things start to feel close. Sexual intimacy might feel mechanical, disconnected from emotional closeness, or absent altogether. You might find yourself in cycles of conflict that never quite resolve, struggling to communicate what you actually need, or caught between wanting closeness and feeling suffocated by it.
I work with people who are single and trying to understand what keeps them from finding or sustaining the intimacy they desire, as well as those in relationships who know something isn't right but can't quite articulate what. I also work with individuals and couples exploring consensual non-monogamy - whether you're considering opening a relationship, navigating jealousy or unexpected emotions, or trying to understand if non-monogamy genuinely aligns with your values.
Identity and Sexuality
Questions of gender identity and sexuality often intersect deeply with how we relate to others and ourselves. Whether you're exploring your gender identity, in the process of coming out or transitioning, questioning your sexuality, or working through how your identity fits with the rest of your life and relationships, I offer a space that welcomes all gender identities and sexual orientations.
I work from a sex-positive perspective, fostering an open, affirming, and non-judgmental space to explore diverse aspects of sexuality and relationships. This perspective acknowledges the integral role of sexuality and identity in overall wellbeing while honoring each person's values, experiences, and boundaries.
Existential Concerns
Sometimes what brings people to therapy isn't a specific "problem" but a deeper sense of unease. You might experience anxiety that doesn't have an obvious external cause, depression that feels more existential than clinical, loneliness even when surrounded by people, or a general sense that life lacks meaning or purpose.
These broader questions - about existence, meaning, how to live authentically, what you want your life to be about - are at the heart of existential work. You might be grappling with questions like: Who am I really, versus who I think I should be? How do I want to exist in the world? What matters to me? How do I make choices that feel genuinely mine rather than responding to others' expectations?
Other Concerns I Work With
Beyond relationships and existential questions, I also work with:
- Stress and burnout- particularly when it connects to questions of work-life balance, meaning in work, or feeling trapped by obligations
- Self-esteem and body image - how you see yourself and how this affects your relationships and life choices
- Anger and emotional regulation - understanding where anger comes from and finding ways to express feelings without being overwhelmed by them
- Loneliness and isolation- both the practical isolation of not having connections, and the more existential loneliness of feeling fundamentally alone even among others
Individual therapy provides space to explore your own patterns, experiences, and inner world. Many people assume therapy for relationship issues means coming with a partner, but some of the most transformative relationship work happens individually.
You might seek individual therapy because you're noticing patterns in your relationships that cause distress, struggling with vulnerability or trust, working to understand why you keep choosing certain types of partners, or needing space to explore your own feelings and responses without a partner present. Individual therapy is also the right choice when you're single and wanting to understand your relational patterns, exploring questions of identity or sexuality, or working through broader existential concerns.
In individual therapy, we'll focus on your lived experience - how you make sense of yourself, your relationships, and your place in the world. We'll explore patterns that might be keeping you stuck, examine what you genuinely want versus what you think you should want, and work toward choices that feel authentically aligned with who you are.
Individual Therapy
Sometimes having an outside perspective helps navigate relationship challenges. A third person can help deconstruct dynamics that are difficult to see from inside the relationship, supporting both partners to communicate more clearly, listen more deeply, and articulate needs more openly.
Working from an existential perspective, I aim to help couples confront challenges with honesty and embrace vulnerability. Rather than prescribing how relationships "should" be or trying to fit you into societal expectations, we'll work together to understand the relationship you actually have and help you co-create something grounded in authentic choices - choices that reflect who you both are and what you genuinely want, not unexamined habits or external pressures.
I work with couples navigating:
- Communication breakdowns and repeated conflicts
- Trust issues, infidelity, or betrayal
- Intimacy concerns - emotional, physical, or sexual
- Different patterns (one partner anxiously seeking closeness, the other withdrawing)
- Life transitions that strain the relationship
- Opening relationships or exploring consensual non-monogamy
- Questions of whether to stay together or separate
The aim is to support you both in cultivating greater intimacy, resilience, and a shared sense of purpose - or, if that's not possible, in understanding that with clarity and care.
Relationship and Couple’s Therapy
Group therapy is a form of psychotherapy where a small group of individuals come together in a supportive, confidential setting to discuss and explore personal challenges. It provides an opportunity to share thoughts, emotions, and struggles while receiving feedback, encouragement, and perspectives from others who may face similar issues.
Being part of a group can be particularly powerful for relationship work, as dynamics often play out in real time within the group itself. You have the opportunity to see how you relate to others, receive reflections on your patterns, and practice new ways of connecting in a safe therapeutic setting. Many people find that witnessing others work through similar struggles is normalizing and valuable in itself.
While individual therapy alongside group work isn't required, I encourage a few individual sessions before joining an existing group to ensure it's the right fit.
Group Therapy
My approach
As a counselling psychologist, my approach to therapy is firmly rooted in existential-phenomenological psychology with a strong relational focus. This means we'll focus on your unique, lived experience and how you've come to find yourself where you are right now - rather than applying diagnostic labels or standardized techniques.
I work integratively, which means while my foundation is existential and relational, I may draw on other approaches when they serve your therapeutic journey. My personality lends itself to a more active style - I engage in open dialogue with you, reflect on what I'm hearing, and actively participate in exploring whatever you bring, rather than remaining silent.
Getting Started
Through developing a better understanding of yourself and gaining a clearer sense of how you exist and relate to others, you'll be able to enhance existing relationships and build healthier connections in the future. Together we'll work to discover new ways of relating, raise awareness of possibilities for change and choice, and explore what might be keeping you from the life and relationships you genuinely want.
If you're interested in exploring therapy with me, please get in touch through the contact page. We can arrange an initial conversation to discuss what you're looking for and whether my approach feels like the right fit for you.